Parenting tips for toddlers discipline
Parenting Tips for toddlers discipling
Parenting tips for toddlers discipline.While it is appropriate to teach children where and how certain behaviors work—and where they don’t—discipline means more than correcting undesirable behavior. It also means guiding the child to develop physically, emotionally, and mentally in a healthy way. We should be concerned about how can we raise our children to become devoted followers of their highest ideals, not how can we force them to obey us.
Parenting tips for toddlers encouraging good behavior-
1.) Introduce Rythm- Creating a rhythmical home life will help will nourish both you and your child. It both guides the child's life by creating good habits and helps avoid arguments and problems. Regularity should prevail in as many of the child's daily activities as possible. It is the key to establishing good habits for life. Now is the time to play and do as you will, now for a meal, now for homework, now to prepare for bed. Learning that there is time for all things is a life's lesson.
2.)Sleep Time- Many children today sleep very little and seem ready to give up afternoon naps at an early age. However, the afternoon nap is of great benefit to help a child digest the impressions of the day. Young children need restful or quiet times during the day to be restored for play.
3.) Imitate- Instead of getting angry or trying to reason with a young child, who doesn’t have the memory or consciousness for reasoning, keep in mind the principles of example and imitation that are so effective with the child under the age of eight. If you want to teach a certain behavior to your child, one of the best ways is to perform that behavior in front of (or with) him. This demands that we get up and do something rather than giving the child orders or directions. For e.g- Instead of saying "Don't bang the door", close the door silently and say "We close the door like this".
4.) Don't expect results- With your toddler, you need to correct and demonstrate the right behavior again and again, but you can’t expect children to remember it. Their memories simply aren’t that mature yet. There will be a slow improvement over time, but the “learning” that does occur takes place through gradual maturation and through forming habit patterns. Only around the age of five does the child have enough memory and perspective on the world to begin to remember what he should and should not do.
5.) Use of no - Despite moving with your child and stating things positively, there will be times when you need to say “no” and your child needs to know that you mean it. It is important that before you say “no” to a child that you are sure what the child intends and certain of your response to that action. Once you have said no to your child stick to it, don't give up on your child's whining. Because if you frequently change your mind, you can confuse him and encourage a habit of pleading until you give in to his demands.
6.) Control negative behavior- We parents should use creative interaction while controlling the negative behavior of our child. For e.g- "We need to be gentle with our toys.", "We wait for others to complete their turn." Express love and compassion for things and people around him. A child who continues to raise a fuss needs to be removed from the action until he is ready to do what is needed (use gentle hands, wait for your turn, or whatever is the issue). Usually, a couple of minutes is all it takes for a child to get himself back together and be ready to try again.
7.)Don't Judge- We should not judge our child as good and bad, because feeling judged and labeled can have lifelong effects. Don't think of individual behavior as bad and good. Look for the unmet needs underlying the emotions, and have empathy and acknowledge what the child is feeling. See emotions and behaviors as arising when basic needs are either met or unmet.
8.) Be an authoritative parent- The authoritative style fosters many child qualities, including increased self-control, positive mood and self-esteem, task persistence, social competence, and academic performance. Studies have shown that children do best when their parents are authoritative, charting a middle course between the extremes of being authoritarian or permissive. Authoritative parents effectively and consistently set limits for their children.
9.Self - Discipline- I know there are times when we feel like throttling our children or yelling uncontrollably, but we should not forget that all discipline starts with the self-discipline by the parent. Because children are so imitative, we need to monitor our own emotions and actions when interacting with them, for our actions and emotions speak louder than our words.
10. Bring your consciousness- One of the keys to discipline involves bringing one’s consciousness and objectivity to the incident—talking in a quiet voice, sticking by what you say, repeating it if necessary, and, whenever possible, actually moving with the young child.
We should realize that Children don’t do things just to annoy us. They’re exploring the world and trying to figure out what works and how to get their needs met. Remember that imitation and repetition, not reasoning and punishment, are the keys to discipline with the young child. I hope all these suggestions will help you in maintaining discipline in your child's life. To learn more about parenting, I recommend you the following books - "You are your child's first teacher" and "Simplicity parenting."
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